Anger

[nickelfire]

I get angry sometimes… Not continually, but off and on I seethe, and most the time I can’t place my finger on what’s causing the strife.
I often feel my head starting to boil with those familiar resentments and then try to calm myself, try to figure out what’s eating at me, and when I can’t it just makes me even more livid at not knowing why.
I don’t consider myself a violent person but I know that I’ve never let it out all the way, never actually found what’s pissing me off, knocked it to ground and beat it till my knuckles and its anonymous face are bloody and broken.
The fact that I can’t find what’s irritating me so relentlessly leads me to believe that it’s everything and nothing at all, I resent everything and everyone in my life but I have no reason to do so.
What’s sad is that whatever I do to change my life, change my perspective, and grow as a man only leads to further aggravation, and I get angry more often.

[MagnetMan]

May 9, 2008 17:23:03 GMT -5 nickelfire said:

I get angry sometimes… Not continually, but off and on I seethe, and most the time I can’t place my finger on what’s causing the strife.
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Sounds pretty serious, nick.
I would Google "Anger management" and get more info on the prob.

[fay]

well, remember with anger you lose control of yourself. and what anger does to your body and spirit is terrible. remember we chose our reactions to what ever the cause. if one learns to react in an angry way to something then he can learn to change his reaction to any thing other than anger. i think some times when people chose not to get angry the solution to a lot of problems come to them. when i am irritated i chose not to react in the irritated way or get angry about it but try to think of myself as an observer and see whats going on. works most of the time. its only when i am in a hurry that i cant get a solution. when i take on the observer role i can see more clearly what people are trying to say.

[atman]

"Seeing is free-ing", Nickel.

I used to be terified of my own 'anger problem'.
Someone said to me, "Anger is fear turned inside out".

Someone else said of fear, "We must be rid of our fears, even uconscious fears".

That really got me...how can I get rid of a fear that I am not conscious of?

So I guessed that perhaps if I took a few minutes and directed my attention inward, that maybe something would come to me.

This became a regular practice, a meditation session.

My most productive sessions came out of the question, 'What am I avoiding at present?' I got some questions from others and made up my own.

Through this I realized that I was full of fear.

Someone else informed me that, "Basically, all emotions are modifications of one primordial, undifferentiated emotion that has its origin in the loss of awareness of who you are beyond name and form."

When I began to look for the deeper "self", the "me", without name, form(body), even thoughts(mind stuff, my intellect,) the fears started to lose their 'punch'. I noticed that they are a bottomless pit; new ones arise to replace new old ones. But they lost their punch, -by making them conscious. I perceive them more as idle thoughts, feelings that arise and leave with little effect, like so many other thoughts. Actually becoming aware of them showed me how insignificant they actually were, and how they did not ever relate to the present! Bogey men, that was all.

Hope this strikes a chord -atman

[fay]

thanks atman your explaination has helped me to understand "me" better.

we have to lose our fears that is the only way to move forward. otherwise people always stay in the same spot. stagnation.

[atman]

I guess I returned to this post as one of the most fruitful areas of self-analysis. Far-reaching benefit from realizing this; I revisited it yesterday...-atman


"How frequently we see a frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection. This weak one, failing to meet life's responsibilities with his own resources, never grows up. Disillusionment and helplessness are his lot. In time all his protectors either flee or die, and he is once more left alone and afraid.
…

These people often throw to the winds every chance for legitimate security and a happy family life. Whenever a human being becomes a battleground for the instincts, there can be no peace.

Every time a person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others, unhappiness follows.

…Demands made upon other people for too much attention, protection, and love can only invite domination or revulsion in the protectors themselves--two emotions quite as unhealthy as the demands which evoked them." from book 12Steps and 12 Traditions

[fay]

Jun 5, 2008 9:21:02 GMT -5 atman said:

I guess I returned to this post as one of the most fruitful areas of self-analysis. Far-reaching benefit from realizing this; I revisited it yesterday...-atman


"How frequently we see a frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection. This weak one, failing to meet life's responsibilities with his own resources, never grows up. Disillusionment and helplessness are his lot. In time all his protectors either flee or die, and he is once more left alone and afraid.
…

These people often throw to the winds every chance for legitimate security and a happy family life. Whenever a human being becomes a battleground for the instincts, there can be no peace.

Every time a person imposes his instincts unreasonably upon others, unhappiness follows.

…Demands made upon other people for too much attention, protection, and love can only invite domination or revulsion in the protectors themselves--two emotions quite as unhealthy as the demands which evoked them." from book 12Steps and 12 Traditions

:oso true.
thanks for these posts. self-analysis is very important for self-development.

in some asian cultures women are taught to be dependent on men for every thing. women are not free to make any decisions.